I love using affirmations to set my intention for the day or to overcome a bad mood. Affirmations are powerful tools. They bring a thought pattern into our consciousness that serves us rather than letting us fall victim to the negative thoughts that roam in our sub-conscious mind. We can use affirmations in different ways. Either we repeat them regularly (in our mind, out loud or written on paper) or we can meditate on a particular affirmation for a while. This way, we can alter our mindset to a more positive one. I have been using affirmations for a few years now and find them very helpful to overcome challenging times. So today I wanted to share my favourite affirmations that I keep returning to and that have noticeably made a difference in my life.
I love you. Please forgive me. I am sorry. Thank you.
This affirmation finds its origin in an old Hawaiian practice of forgiveness called ho’oponopono. I first heard about this affirmation a few years ago. It is now by far the most powerful affirmation in my life. Forgiving myself and others on a consistent basis for anything that I or they might be struggling with has truly changed my life. It continuously cleanses me and those around me from all the negative thoughts that no longer serve us.
If you want to learn how powerful this affirmation can be, you can read this post about a Hawaiian psychologist who successfully treated an entire ward of mentally ill prisoners. All he did was speaking this affirmation over their paper files without ever meeting the prisoners in person.
Everything happens for me, not to me.
This is another great affirmation I use when I am feeling bad about something. It is particularly helpful if I perceive the issue as something external. If I am dating someone who treats me badly, fall ill or don’t get the dream job I so desperately wanted, I am quick to point to the bad luck in my life. This affirmation forces me to look at how a situation is serving me. As it happens, everything in our life can serve us in some way if we let it. The bad guy is here to teach us self-love because he will surely never give it to us. The illness is here to slow us down and remind us to take better care of ourselves. The job we didn’t get teaches us patience, persistence, and humility. Repeating this affirmation in bad times helps me to transform my views on a negative situation, which is especially helpful to calm down anxiety and stress.
Every moment is an opportunity to become who I already am.
I like this affirmation because it points out the freshness of each new moment. It keeps reminding me that I can choose to act out of love and become a confident co-creator of the universe at any point without having to wait for the right opportunity. Every moment contains a right opportunity! When I find myself in the middle of self-doubt, uncertainty or boredom I can choose to step into the strength that resides in me.
On a practical note, I use this affirmation whenever I feel like I have to wait until Monday, next month or next year to work on a goal or whenever I am in a bad mood and think I should sleep on it to make me feel better. Although a good night’s sleep and Mondays can make for a nice clean slate, this affirmation emphasizes that now is as clean a slate as you will ever get.
Everything I need is within me.
This is my little power mantra! While I use the other affirmations more often when I feel badly, this affirmation assures me at times I need to feel confident. I often use this affirmation before an important presentation, job interview or first date. In a way I am telling myself ‘you’ve got this, little one’.
Besides these top four favourites, I also enjoy using the affirmations below for strength, contentment, and peace:
- Feelings are just visitors
- Today I let go of all that does not serve me
- Everything is working in my favour
- I am aligned with my highest truth
For me, my higher truth is knowing that all is love, all is connected and therefore I have access to infinite wisdom and love within me. In meditation, I am sometimes able to truly embrace this truth. However, in my day-to-day life this truth often gets forgotten. When I need to feel this truth in my life in order to act from a place of presence and gentle strength, I use any of the affirmations above to give myself a spiritual confidence boost. And if have completely lost you with this spiritual mumbo-jumbo, then just think of affirmations as a little mental pick-me-up you can have with your morning coffee!