My favourite type of list and I are on a break. After a long and beautiful relationship, we recently decided to take some time apart. My love affair with to-do list started at a young age. As a rigidly organised person, I was drawn to the structure and focus to-do list offered me. What started as a flirty fling in my early teens – spending entire afternoons plotting my future life with to-do list – became something more serious as I grew older. To-do list gave me a sense of peace in an increasingly demanding world (welcome to adulthood, little girl!). Before I knew it to-do list
More time for my other lovers
I am not monogamous when it comes to life tools. But recently I realised I had been spending so much time with
Listening to myself more
To-do list gave me the organisation I needed to accomplish life goals and keep adulthood going smoothly. But it also dictated much of how my daily life should pan out. If to-do list and I made plans for the week ahead, I stuck to them, even when mid-week I changed my mind or didn’t feel like doing a particular task. Now that I don’t have
Not treating our relationship as a job
All relationships take work. I am not disputing that. But a relationship shouldn’t require so much effort that it is draining you. And unfortunately to-do list has been draining me quite a bit lately. I felt like a Saturday was wasted if I didn’t have at least five things to accomplish and tick off. And a Sunday afternoon lazing around was only allowed, if I had achieved enough ticks during the week. My entire life became one big chore with endless ticks and lists. Without to-do list life has become so much more effortless. If you feel like you cannot make it through the week without a plan or cannot go to the shop without a grocery list (another lover I am distancing myself from a bit), perhaps it is time to loosen the reigns a bit.
I know to-do list and I will work it out again. We have too much history and I love to-do list too much to break up completely and move on forever. We still have so many projects to work on and I already miss how to-do list helps me out with the little daily tasks of life. On the other hand, I assume to-do list is glad to not be crumpled up and tossed in the bin anymore, but I haven’t asked. For now, we are giving each other space and – when we are ready – I am once again happy to embrace to-do list back into my life.
Have you ever taken a break from to-do lists?