If you have been reading any of my recent posts, you will know that I have been in search of more rest recently. Meaningful rest, to be precise. After years of severely neglecting rest, it had become time for me to put it back into the spotlight. But p
Find out what works for you
During this process of uncovering meaningful rest, I have had to understand what recharged my batteries. The problem with rest is that it looks different for everyone. Whereas some people love taking baths, other people get fidgety and anxious when they lay in a warm pool of liquid. (I would be an ‘other people’). February showed me that socialising – although fun – does not count as meaningful rest for me. In January I had very little social engagements and felt super
Stop feeling guilty
If you are anything like me, the previous point might be easier said than done. I noticed that I felt very guilty whenever I took an entire weekend off (the audacity!) to just rest. It wouldn’t take long for my mind to think about the flights I had been meaning to book, or the blog posts I was supposed to schedule, or the friend I had been meaning to catch up with. And for some reason, my mind would assume that I had to do these things right at that moment. Here are my two cents for when this happens during your time of rest. Take
Schedule in meaningful rest
Once you know what constitutes as meaningful rest, you actually have to schedule in some time for it. In my case, I know that I will feel most rested after a weekend of no socialising and no screen time whatsoever. But between seeing friends, blogging and doing admin, it is difficult to actually end up with a weekend like that. Particularly if I don’t plan for it. I have found that when I block out one weekend a month where I truly do nothing, I can plan my blogging, admin and seeing friends earlier in the month. Whatever your version of meaningful rest is, making sure you block out good chunks of time for this rest – and defending that time vigorously -, ensures that the meaningful rest actually gets implemented into your life.
Schedule in space
The last thing I have learned about meaningful rest is that no matter what way you recharge (whether it is with friends, in a hot bath or hiking a mountain), we can all benefit from more space. Instead of filling our diaries with back-to-back appointments, tasks, and to-do lists, we can just leave some time blank. Time that can be occupied with spontaneity and creativity. There are so many little pockets of time that we could just let be if we weren’t so quick to fill them with ‘shoulds’. Trust me, you don’t need to have your teeth checked, your car fixed, your taxes filed and your blog posts for the next three months written all in the same week. You will see that by creating more space into your time you won’t accomplish less – you will probably just become more productive – but life will become just that little less stressful.
What are your ways to rest in a meaningful way?